We live in a world where weaknesses, mistakes or “fuck ups” are covered up, glossed over or ignored, rather than enjoyed for the glorious learning opportunity that they should be. “Fuck Up Night” is a an ongoing, nationally coordinated series of informal events taking place in bars and cafes across Australia to celebrate and own the fuck ups we make in life.
We know that suicide is the biggest killer of men aged 14-44. Similarly, we know that guys aren't always as proactive at sorting their heads out as they should be. Since 2011, Soften the Fck Up has been asking what can we do as a nation to make it easier for guys to get a bit of help when they need it?
In 2014, we want to ask a new question. All of us have been through tough times in our lives. Whether it's money, love, work or life that gets us down, we've all been there, yet we've all bounced back at some point.
We want to know what were the things that helped you to get through the tough times? We reckon that if it helped you, then chances are it'll help someone else, too.
Below are just some of the responses we've had so far...
"A few years back, when I was still at school, I was a bit of a shit and had gone off the rails. Things weren't easy at home and I ended up hanging out with what you could call "the wrong crowd".
Things went from bad to worse in a pretty short period of time. One day I was on the net and saw an ad for kids help line and thought why not. it took a really long time for me to sort my life out, but that call changed my outlook heaps. It was pretty awesome to just spill my guts to a stranger."
"For me, it was my sister finding my pill bottle and asking me about it to get me to finally speak up and admit what was going on. I don't know if I ever would have asked someone else for help - by her choosing to talk to me, she might have saved my life."
"Exercise. That's it. My mind seems to be directly linked to my body. If I'm exercising I feel good and if I'm feeling good, then I'm probably exercising."
"I didn't even realise how down I had become. My girlfriend and I had broken up and it just hit me really hard. It was easier to stay in at home then go out or do anything productive. I was having a beer one night with a mate and he asked me how I was going. I said the usual "Fine". And he said "No, mate, how are you really doing?".
He told me that all my mates had noticed a change in the way I was acting and that they were worried about me. I thought I had been doing a good job at hiding it. Haha"
When you're going through a tough time, it can often seem like a challenge to talk about it or start a conversation. Do you know what's harder than that, though? Not having a conversation at all.
On September 17th, 2013 we challenged everyone around Australia (and the world) to go 24 hours without talking, all to raise money and awareness for mental health.